Signs A Woman Is Attracted To You Online — 9 Ways To Know

12 December

So many men I’ve coached and talked to, don’t understand the signs a woman is attracted to you — or not. There’s a good reason for that too. In school, you weren't taught anything about dating. You definitely didn’t learn about body language or what women want.

Besides that, I know from my experience as a woman sometimes signs a woman is attracted to you is more subtle that you would prefer. It makes is challenging. Women are like a complicated network of wires, and you don’t know which one is hot!

The signs of attraction when it comes to dating isn't always black and white

It’s much more complicated than that. I know it’s frustrating for you not understanding women. Because women are hella confusing (and I know this because I’m one of them!). For that reason, don’t take being confused by country girl personally. Most men are baffled by all women for that matter.

Here’s what I’m like on a day-to-day basis. One minute I like one thing, the next minute I can’t stand it. I’m a woman, what can I say? Sometimes I don’t know what I want and I’m also entitled to change my mind anytime I choose.

So when it comes to understanding women, I know it can be a challenge. When you’re getting to know a woman online, it’s even more complicated because you can’t also see her body language. But I want to make it easier for you here with incredible tips! After reading this you’ll be able to understand if a woman is interested in you.

There are a few signs a woman wants you to chase her when you match online

If she’s not asking you a lot of questions first she might want you to ask them first. Some country gals are feminine and want you to pursue her. You hunt deer, now it’s time for you to learn how to hunt women.

First thing's first. If she matched with you, there is at least a bit of interest. If you keep things interesting, it’ll help you create more attraction and keep her interested. The next way to know she likes you is pretty simple.

Therefore you need to be the first to go in for the kill, instead of waiting on the sidelines like a wallflower. There’s some other macho man who’ll make the first move if you don’t. There are things women will do online to let you know they're interested.

Women have a lot of options online when it comes to men. So . . .

A girl is messaging someone

If she’s talking to you, you’ve sparked something in her, at least a little

This is a great place to start. If she’s winking or sending you a message online, my magic 8-ball says, she likes you. At least a little bit! If a woman is taking the time to message you, this is a big hint.

Another sign a woman is into you is that she wants to learn more about you

Women love to talk, generally speaking. But if she’s making an effort to keep the conversation going with you by asking about you— this is another sign that she’s interested. It doesn’t, however, mean that she’ll be you’re one and only.

When a woman asks questions about you, it means she’s a maybe (for now). There are more ways to know too!

If she asks if you’re single or dating any other woman, she is giving you yet another clue

It probably means that she’s interested in you. Women have a few alpha traits now especially the ones that have to bring home the bacon. That is most women these days. So don’t be surprised if she gets straight to the meat of what she wants to know.

If she asks if you’re dating anyone else, she’s looking for an in— at least for a bit part in your life. As on a first date.

When it comes to the attraction, you need to look for clusters of behaviors to know if a woman likes you for sure or not

There are lots of signs a woman likes you, and I’m going to give you more of the deep insights into the complicated minds of women.  Most men who are online dating want to know.

For example,  you’re talking with a beautiful woman online who’s exciting and seems like she’s interested in you too. You’re still not sure if she likes you.

Your conversation is flowing back and forth, it’s fun and maybe even flirty. You realize you also have common interests. You both love 4-wheelers and horseback riding. She could be your dream girl! But how else are you supposed to know?

Don’t let the questions stop you from taking action

Questions galore run through your head. Is she single? Does she have nothing better to do, and she’s just killing time by chatting with me? I wonder if this gal really wants a relationship or is she just looking for a free dinner?

The questions going through your mind can drive you crazy. It seems like she likes you, but you’re just not sure. You think she knows you’re into meeting her, but who knows what she’s thinking, really.

There is one sign of attraction that’ll let you know she's interested in you for sure.

Woman pointing to her cell phone

Her digits are given to you freely

If a woman gives you her contact info without you asking for it — that’s a definite sign she’s interested in you. When you’re chatting with a potential new lady, and she says “Here’s my number. Hit me up sometime!”

That means she wants you to call or text her. Don’t blow it by waiting for too long. Or if a woman tells you her Facebook name, email or even Instagram account, connect with her ASAP!

If you don’t have Instagram or Facebook, it’s time for you to get with the program. You’re already online. You might as well have a FB account. Besides, you’ll get to look at more photos of her riding her horse into the sunset. So if she gives you her number get in touch soon.

If a woman messages you first online or offline, it’s another sure-fire sign

A woman won’t take the time out of her busy day to message a man she doesn’t want to meet. If she wants you to fix her car or bring her some deer meat over hunting season, she could have ulterior motives.

So if a woman messages you first take it as a sign to move things along in the dating timeline. Your phone ringing means she’s probably ready for you to ask her out. Put on your big boy boots and make the first move.

You don’t want your friends making fun of you for letting her make the first move, do ya? When a woman is messaging you first, it means she’s thinking about you. That’s a good thing!

She starts sending you pictures of herself

They could be sexy or not. But when a woman sends any man photos, it’s a reminder that she wants you to see her. To look at her. So make sure you thank her for the pictures and tell her you to like to look at them.

This is an excellent opportunity to tell her you’d like to see more of her in real life. But just because she’s sending you photos, it doesn’t mean to send her nudes of yourself. If she asks for them, that’s one thing.

Sending a woman a clothed photo of you is OK if she sent you one first. Naked pics of a man are usually not a turn-on for women. This is a broad blanket statement. I’m sure there are a couple of ladies out there who don’t mind.

So play it safe in this department, and keep it PG-13. Women get turned on more by their minds than their eyes. So turn her on with your words instead.

She responds to your messages fast when you send her one

If a woman takes three days to respond and lags on responding to texts, then she’s probably not that interested. Women message men back quickly when they want to hear from them again. Unless they are clueless and have terrible online dating etiquette.

This means if you notice one particular woman from online is messaging you a lot and quickly this is good. Also if she’s starting the convo first, she’s thinking about you. The signs a woman is attracted to you also play out on social media.

New friend request

If she asks to connect on social media

She’s not embarrassed to connect with you, and she probably also wants you to look at photos of her. Social media is a way for her and you to see if you have any common interests. Do you have the same hobbies, even some of the same friends? If you connect on FB, you can also rest assured she’s not one of those romance scams.

You’re suddenly getting lots of likes or comments on your Facebook page from her

Basically, when this happens, you know for sure that she’s checking you out. This one is noticeable. Thumbs up, comments and hearts are showing up under your posts next to her name, then it means she’s naturally attracted to you.

So pay attention to what women do and what they don’t do. If a woman takes days to respond to texts, don’t waste your time. If she returns to your texts within a few hours and loves to hear your voice, it’s time to take things to the next level.

According to Dating Site Reviews, 37% of couple who got together from online, talked for about a week before going on a first date. So don’t wait too long, because there are plenty of men waiting to take her out. So get her off the phone and get her in real life!

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Dina Colada
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Dina Colada is dating coach who has appeared on MSN, YourTango and Women’s Health. She helps singles date the smart way. Get her free love-attracting book and audio tracks at

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